Okay, so maybe no one will read this and maybe someone will. I’m using my freedom of speech shit to finally talk about this. This is obviously Bella, who was on Mibba for years. I was on there from… I can’t even remember. 07? I think so. I think this year it would have been six years. I know I was member 14 000 something. Which, now that there are over 200 000 users was quite a big deal.
I saw Mibba through a lot of things and I remained there for year after year. I saw the trends and the comings and goings of users. I became a staff member after a lot of work and I worked my ass off as that too. I started as a story editor then became a forum mod and then a blog mod. I wrote a shit ton of articles for the knowledge base and I was a member of the magazine for two years, I believe. Basically, I spent a lot of time and effort on Mibba. When New Mibba arrived I continued to answer questions and calm everyone down, explaining the new features and layout. I kept reassuring everyone that it’d be okay and why Dujo had done x or y.
And then one day I left. Here’s why…
I was continually treated like shit on Mibba. Not just by users, but by staff as well. No joke at all. I was harassed by one user and they never got banned because they were bbfs with Audrey T, Legit, right? Another user told me to kill myself and other shit and Dujo didn’t care one bit. Then the last straw really came when I was harassed by womping willow and instead of telling her to back the fuck off Kurtni and Audrey told us we weren’t allowed to contact each other. Kurtni obviously laughed with me about it, saying how dumb this other chick was and how it was just a stupid formality. But still, that’s just ridiculous in so many ways. Well, that was just sort of when it became too stupid. I resigned from the magazine and from being staff, because it was all too dumb to handle. Then someone started posting blogs about me, bashing and publicly ridiculing me. Now, I’d just been staff so I knew the rules: delete them without hesitation. Did the remaining blog moderators do this? No, they did not. And that was the final, final, final straw. It had happened way too many times before and I was just done with it. Completely.
After that I sent out a few Pm’s to users I felt I had a few words for, those included Audrey T and womping willow. Now, obviously I’d been told not to speak to the latter of those, but obviously I was also to be a former member so I didn’t give much of a shit. I can’t remember exactly what I said to her, but it was something like “hey, I think you need to grow up some because you can’t treat people like shit just because you give them unwanted advice and then they don’t follow it”. Well, what happened after that was that Kurtni wrote to me on facebook and said that since I’d contacted a member I wasn’t allowed to interact with we couldn’t be friends anymore.
That was pretty much when I lost it. My first leaving Mibba was calm and whatnot, but then I’d had enough. See, I wasn’t a member of Mibba, so Mibba rules didn’t apply to me. I was fully free to contact whomever I wanted and no one - including Kurtni - had a right to tell me what to say or not say and who to talk to or not talk to.
So I decided to let people know what kind of admin she was. One that shit-talked basically a lot of people on Mibba. I did too, but see, I can admit that I did. I never pretended to be friends with someone or that I was better than anyone and then talked about them behind their back. She did. I never tried to pretend that I was on a high horse above everyone and would neeeeeever say anything about someone from Mibba in other places. She did.
I, Bella, was the one who posted the screencaps from my conversations with Kurtni. I still have them and no they were not photoshopped. I feel absolutely no shame about doing it because they weren’t lies or manipulations; they were the full truth. I genuinely felt like those she’d talked about behind their backs deserved to know. So I posted them. Again, no regrets and no shame. Yep, I said shit in those posts too but I, again, have no problem admitting as much. So I posted them to let others know that you couldn’t trust anyone on Mibba because the site quite honestly had gone to shits.
Now this is really important!
I had nothing to do with Kurtni leaving. Nothing. I had no idea she had even left until a few weeks ago. I thought Mibba was the same as always and that everyone was still on it and that nothing had changed. I hadn’t been on there since my departure after posting the conversations and I had no idea whatsoever that she was gone too. I had nothing to do with it, but I also don’t care why she left. It’s none of my business. I’m no longer a part of that site and she was no longer in my life. She is no longer in my life. We’re done and me and that site are done too.
So why am I posting this?
Simple - because I can. And because I’m done with people on Mibba spreading rumors like it’s fucking high school. Apparently there’s been talk about how someone else posted those conversations and about how that same someone was the one who harassed Kurtni until she left. That’s bullshit and I’m posting this to underline that.
I’m also posting it because I’m tired of the rumors behind why I left and I’m done feeling like I’m still protecting people who treated me like shit. See, even Audrey T has treated me like shit more than once. First, back in the day, she harassed me through private messages in a way that I’ve been told since - by Kurtni - that an admin was not allowed to do! She told me I had issues she didn’t want to fix for me and that I wasn’t allowed to contact her as a member of staff anymore. Then she confronted me about deleting one of her comments on my journals once - which a staff member is absolutely fucking not allowed to do. And then she told Kurtni a bunch of lies about me regarding the Mibba magazine so that I wouldn’t be allowed to become staff. I do have screenshots of these lies, because Kurtni showed them to me. I save everything, I’m not an idiot. I still have every single conversation with Mibbians who have said shit about me or to me - so there’s no point in anyone trying to deny anything since I know the facts as well as anyone.
Now this is a lot longer than I thought it would be, but I guess that is because I’m still pretty annoyed about the whole thing. I will say these things though:
- I’m not lying, I still have all screenshots of everything mentioned above
- Mibba has become a terrible place where bullying is okay
- The staff that was when I was on there was terrible, especially the admins
- I’m so happy I left, I have a few amazing forums now where bullying, harassment and high school shit talk doesn’t even exist.
Now, I’m happy to answer any questions if you drop them in my ask. I have no problem being completely honest about any of this anymore because I have no reason to keep anything quiet. I won’t break any laws so don’t ask me to start calling anyone names and I won’t condone such behavior either. Note that I haven’t called anyone any hateful names above because I see no reason for that. I won’t post any conversations or screenshots of conversations publicly, don’t ask for that. I have no problem showing them if you have a good reason for wanting to see.
All I know is that Mibba became a horrible place where people were allowed to treat others like shit and I’m done with that.
Cheers and Bella out!